生活英语听力文章 第136期:小心嫉妒者(2)

 Writer and speaker, jennifer james explains it this way, “jealousy 1 is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. 作家兼演说家，詹尼佛·詹姆斯这样说：“妒忌明显是害怕自己没有价值的表现。

Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point – that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you.” 妒忌总是在寻找机会证明一点——别人比你受到了优待。”
As you can see, the meaning of jealousy and envy overlap 2. 不难发现，嫉妒与妒忌在含义上有所重叠。
Both emotions have been associated with the color green: the common expression, green with envy 两者都与“绿”颜色扯上了关系——常说的妒忌得脸都绿了
and shakespeare’s words in othello, “o! beware my lord, of jealousy; it is the green-ey’d monster which doth mock the meat it feeds on.” 和莎士比亚《奥赛罗》里面的“哦！君上您要留心嫉妒啊, 那是一个绿眼的妖魔。谁做了它的牺牲,就要受它的玩弄。”
The bottom line is that both are negative feelings that can lead to unproductive and damaging behavior. 最起码，这两个都是消极的情绪，都会导致无益甚至有害的行为。
If you want to live a happy, successful and satisfying life, you must be aware of and guard yourself against these destructive emotions. 如果你想要幸福、成功、生活充实，你必须要警戒自己远离这些负面情绪。
Wanting a fancy car just like your neighbor’s, feeling like you should have received the company promotion 3 rather than your co-worker, 想拥有一辆和邻居一样的豪车，觉得自己应该被晋升而不是同事，
thinking that everyone around you is more financially secure, 觉得周围所有人财务都比你富足，
or believing that you can’t attract good friends or a marital 4 partner are just a few examples of how jealousy and envy can play a role in our personal and professional lives. 认为你不会结交好朋友或者找到合适的生活伴侣。这些都是嫉妒和妒忌会在我们的生活和职场生活中带来的影响。
Being envious 5 or jealous focuses on the other person’s “things” or circumstances that seem more attractive to you than yours. 嫉妒和妒忌的人都是关注他人拥有的东西和他人所处的更优越的环境。
Instead of looking at what you are lacking, look at what you have that everyone else is lacking and accept yourself for who you are. 不要总是关注你没有什么，你要看的是什么是你拥有而其他所有人都没有的，学会接受这样的自己。
If you are going to live life to it’s fullest potential while enjoying the journey, you’ll need to make it a priority to develop your sense of self-worth. 如果你希望享受自己的人生旅途，同时将人生的意义最大化，你首先要做的事情应该是培养自我价值意识。
Not only do we all look different, we are different. we all have different strengths, skills, talents, gifts and abilities that are unique to us. 人不光长相各不相同，我们的优势、技能、天赋、才能和能力也各不相同。
It is simply not reasonable to think you can have them all, nor is it necessary. Each one of us has strengths and weaknesses. 想拥有一切的想法太不理智。每个人都有自己的优缺点。
My experience has taught me that the only way you will be happy is if you are happy with who you are. 我的经验告诉我，要想获得快乐的的唯一途径就是认可自己。
If you lead a life focused on comparing yourself to others, you will likely end up unhappy, unfulfilled, unloved and unsuccessful. 如果你的生活重点是和别人比较，你很有可能会感到不幸、不满足、缺乏爱和成功。