生活英语听力文章 第144期:你的话语反映你的性格(2)
时间：2018-12-18 作者：英语课 分类：生活英语听力文章
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On the other hand, when you brand yourself as someone who refrains from speaking disapprovingly 1 of others, 另一方面,当你铭记某人拒绝说其他人的坏话,
not only will people's respect for you grow, but you will also be happier. 不仅人们的尊重有利于你成长,但你也会更快乐。
When you hold back saying something negative about someone else—especially when given the opportunity-you exemplify self—control and concern for others. 当你对其他人说一些负面，特别是当给机会的时候，例证你的自控和关心他人。
Any fool can criticize, condemn 2, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. 任何傻瓜都能批评、谴责和抱怨,但是更需要去理解和宽容。
Do not, however, confuse speaking of someone in a derogatory way with participating in a formal critique, 然而,参与正式的批判的时候，不要混淆贬损的方式说话的人,
such as job performance reviews or when you are asked to point out deficiencies for the purpose of helping 3 someone improve in certain areas. 如工作表现评审或当你被要求指出缺陷为目的的帮助别人在某些领域改善。
In these instances, use tact 4 and diplomacy 5 to focus on performance issues and always avoid personal attacks. 在这些情况下,使用机智和外交关注的性能问题,总是避免人身攻击。
Here are 3 tips for Avoiding Negative Conversations 避免消极谈话的技巧
1.Refuse to engage in negative conversations about others. 1.拒绝参与对别人消极的对话。
2.Refuse to be part of groups who speak poorly of others. 2.拒绝成为说别人的不好组织的一部分。
3.Remember that if you are surrounded by people who thrive on cutting others down, it may be time for you to reconsider with whom you spend your time. 3.记住,如果你被人贬低别人,也许是时候重新考虑与你花你的时间。
Avoid making negative or unflattering comments about other people by remembering that your comments influence people's views of you. 避免消极的或不讨人喜欢的评论别人记住你的评论影响他人对你的看法。
Sometimes figuratively (and sometimes literally) I bite my tongue when I am on the verge 6 of saying something negative. 有时候打个比方(有时字面上)当我想要说一些消极的时候，我咬我的舌头不说话。
I do so knowing that quelling 7 the urge to speak my mind on impulse helps me show consideration for others, uphold my values, and maintain my reputation. 我知道平息冲动说出我的想法的欲望帮我显示为他人着想,坚持自己的价值观,保持我的声誉。
And remember you can build a reputation that commands respect by refusing to speak negatively of others in all circumstances-regardless of who is or isn't present. 你可以通过拒绝在任何时候说其他人坏话建立声誉，不管他是不是在场。
1 disapprovingly
adv.不以为然地，不赞成地，非难地
- When I suggested a drink, she coughed disapprovingly. 我提议喝一杯时，她咳了一下表示反对。 来自《简明英汉词典》
- He shook his head disapprovingly. 他摇了摇头，表示不赞成。 来自《简明英汉词典》
2 condemn
vt.谴责，指责；宣判(罪犯)，判刑
- Some praise him,whereas others condemn him.有些人赞扬他，而有些人谴责他。
- We mustn't condemn him on mere suppositions.我们不可全凭臆测来指责他。
3 helping
n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的，辅助的
- The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
- By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。
4 tact
n.机敏，圆滑，得体
- She showed great tact in dealing with a tricky situation.她处理棘手的局面表现得十分老练。
- Tact is a valuable commodity.圆滑老练是很有用处的。
5 diplomacy
n.外交；外交手腕，交际手腕
- The talks have now gone into a stage of quiet diplomacy.会谈现在已经进入了“温和外交”阶段。
- This was done through the skill in diplomacy. 这是通过外交手腕才做到的。
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