时间:2018-12-11 作者:英语课 分类:访谈录2008


英语课

Most women do it deliberately 1. They think about it.


 


Were you? You interviewed. I guess you put it on your crisis list. Right ? You ask women to contact. How many? 500?


 


I interviewed 500. I actually had more women than that who answered the ad. They were from across the country, different ages; social strata 2; ethnicity and they all started the interview by saying to me: “Yes, I lie in some way. I feel I have to. ” 


 


And they all? They lie about everything from sex to marriage to work to finances, everything across the board. I heard a woman who talked about shop lifting with her kids. Tell me about that.


 


That was a disturbing story. This was a young woman who had young children. And she thought if she got caught she could account for it. So she said she would put them in a cart. She would take them and she would steal a small thing and she thought if they stop her she would say: “ Well,  it was such a hectic 3 day and I have my children with me.” That’s an acceptable lie when you think you can explain it that way.


 


So , Argie when you start thinking going down that path, it would be very very dangerous. You say what you need to do is get to the root of the problem. The root problem? Is it the secret or the lie or?


 


The root problem is the secret, not necessarily the lie. The lie is the behavior. Many people just like Susan said were trained to lie. And most people you say. You know how many people have never lied? If they tell you they’ve never lied, that’s lying because most people had lied about something. So get to the root of the problem which is the secret and why they are puncturing 4 a lie. And it might be their mother or their father or brother you know what don’t hurt their feelings, or every woman has to have their mad buddy 5. And really in all reality they are puncturing the platform of the lie. But really it’s the secret and secret keeping. That’s not good for us.


 


And it can actually affect our health.


 


Yeah, absolutely. When you think about it, holding a lie like perhaps maybe you are having an affair or the lie you are mismanaging the money. That can have a problem physically 6 emotionally spiritually and if you are holding those big secrets then you’re moving away from your own truth.


 


But all women kept so good at the lie and that they just layer the lie. You have to really face it and says it really isn’t helping 7 anymore. It’s harming me. It’s harming someone close to me.


 


But when you have so many layers, it’s awfully 8 hard to peel them back and can finally reveal the truth. Because your whole life is living


 


That’s the problem. And that’s a lie once a neighbor is doing now. I interviewed a woman whose brother is a drug-addict. So she gave him the money and her mother gave him money. But finally they had to face that he needed help and they weren’t helping him. And that the family secret has to be let out.


 


And before we go, I mean man lie, too. That’s the. Right about that.


 


Not just women.


 


They are not as good as women.


 


Women will think about it necessarily through, but my thing is tell somebody about it. Especially if it’s a deep dark secret, it’s gonna let that go because otherwise that’s gonna hold on to you. And it all affects the rest of your relationship.


 


At least tell one person. Alright, Argie, thank you very much. Susan as well.


 



1 deliberately
adv.审慎地;蓄意地;故意地
  • The girl gave the show away deliberately.女孩故意泄露秘密。
  • They deliberately shifted off the argument.他们故意回避这个论点。
2 strata
n.地层(复数);社会阶层
  • The older strata gradually disintegrate.较老的岩层渐渐风化。
  • They represent all social strata.他们代表各个社会阶层。
3 hectic
adj.肺病的;消耗热的;发热的;闹哄哄的
  • I spent a very hectic Sunday.我度过了一个忙乱的星期天。
  • The two days we spent there were enjoyable but hectic.我们在那里度过的两天愉快但闹哄哄的。
4 puncturing
v.在(某物)上穿孔( puncture的现在分词 );刺穿(某物);削弱(某人的傲气、信心等);泄某人的气
  • Complement enzymes attack antigens by puncturing the cell membrane. 补体酶通过刺穿细胞膜来攻击抗原。 来自互联网
  • Purpose:Re-modifying the method of DSA puncturing arteria cerebri through arteria carotis communis. 目的 :对经颈总动脉穿刺行脑动脉DSA的方法进行再次改良。 来自互联网
5 buddy
n.(美口)密友,伙伴
  • Calm down,buddy.What's the trouble?压压气,老兄。有什么麻烦吗?
  • Get out of my way,buddy!别挡道了,你这家伙!
6 physically
adj.物质上,体格上,身体上,按自然规律
  • He was out of sorts physically,as well as disordered mentally.他浑身不舒服,心绪也很乱。
  • Every time I think about it I feel physically sick.一想起那件事我就感到极恶心。
7 helping
n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的,辅助的
  • The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
  • By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。
8 awfully
adv.可怕地,非常地,极端地
  • Agriculture was awfully neglected in the past.过去农业遭到严重忽视。
  • I've been feeling awfully bad about it.对这我一直感到很难受。
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