怎样让自己的女儿漂亮美丽?
We're in the after-show, we are talking today about how our young girls are in crisis 1. How we are raising a generation of daughters with no self-esteem. The Dove 2 campaign for real beauty launched 3 a global study found that only 2% of women around the world will describe themselves as beautiful. And that's what we are teaching 4 our daughters; we are passing that message on to our daughters. Earlier in the show we were talking about your young daughter, er, who is 3 years old and obsessed 5 with being beautiful.(Yes) And you wanted to say what?
My question to Dr Roben is, Phlisha S talked about that Mirror that, to look at your inner 6 beauty but as a mother, I, I have failed to show my daughter that Mirror. So, what can I do when she comes out and says:I hate myself. I don't look beautiful.
Phlisha also said that the beauty has to start from within. So to give your daughter that message that she's beautiful, you're gonna have to first see that you are.
I've got something to say.(Yes)I kinda disagree with you.(Okay,good,so tell me)that because my wife is very beauti, beautiful and she said that she felt like that when she was younger. So, I have a 6-year-old daughter that she finds beauty in everyone. So, I, you know, I think she's felt..you know,her beauty for years now. So, if anyone, it would've been our 6-year-old daughter that would've felt that way instedad of my 3-year-old daughter.
I, I hear you except for I listen to what your wife said about herself.(But she, but she said)I'm wondering, I'm wondering did you hear what your wife said?
No,I heard her say when she was young. She had it ... and because we've been talked about it and she said, you know...
So, let me just, let me ask you. Do you think you are beautiful?
Right now where I'm in my life,yes.
And tell me what's beautiful about you?
I'm at professionally in a place where I help people. I, I um, give back to my church. I'm helping 7 my community.
Those are tasks.(Well, and)I wanna know what in your core 8 do you celebrate everyday that you wake up?
I'm raising children, which is a difficult task and I think I'm instilling 9 in my children to be responsible and loving and caring and we have a nurturing 10 home and so those...
You don't sound to me that you feel like you are beautiful. I, I heard your list. Em, I hear what you are saying that you're doing and accomplishing. I also watch your daughter who is hating herself.
But you also didn't see my 6-year-old daughter that is beautiful and loves everyone else.
So, so this you know what I love about this Oprah? This is great. Because what is happening is that we are getting into this, I'm gonna protect my ego 11 and the reason I'm gonna address this is 'cause your child's life is on the line. Your child is in trouble. She is in danger. It is not happening outside of your home, it is happening in your home. It is not to blame you. But when I hear parents say, and this is now for everybody 'cause part of what I wanna talk about on the after show is, the question for all of us is how have we injured our children? Not have we, how have we injured them? It's not a question about if we have 'cause we have. So, to you, and this is not for you to answer right now, your response was I disagree with you. We have a happy home. It would be our 6-year-old. I, I got all that. What I'm saying is there's a 3-year-old who you're getting ready to lose. And so we can either focus on what's happening and what has she picked up that's making her so focused. You know, magazines and how have we not protected her spirit and her mind. Where did we fall short and if you can't answer that and all you can do is tell me what a great job you've done. And it's not just you,this is,this is...
Yeah, but you know this is a classic 12 thing that happens in families where you know, my generation we call them the black sheep, and you're headed for having what we call a black sheep. You have a child at three year old who's saying to you is in strong tantrums and saying I hate you. Wait till that child turn 13 or 10 or,you know what I'm saying? But I'm just ..let me finish (OK),and so, the mistake that a lot of people make that I've seen from interviewing over the years is, is..they will say,but I did the same thing with my other children. And my other children are perfect. My other children don't have, this isn't an issue. My other children are wonderful. We did the same thing. Every child needs something different and you can't do the same kind of parenting. The same kind of parenting doesn't work for every..if you have 2 children, you can not parent them the same. Yes or no? That is true. So it means, it means, what, what you are doing in the house for that one child and you all know this if you come from more than one person in your family. Your parents do the same thing and they say well how come you acted this way, (right) and she acted that way. Isn't that true?
It is. That's true and the other thing is what we all... (Everybody does that)
Right.
My, my point is exactly what you said. I mean maybe we are doing something wrong and that if we could change it, we are all for it. But I'm saying you know, it seemed like it would happen with the older kid..
Well,what I'm saying is...let's get rid of the,let's get rid of the "maybe".
Can you answer his question, why didn't it happen to the older kid? That's what he's saying.
Well,this is,yeah,well I wanna really address that because you don't know what your older child's feeling. This is very very important. Kids who don't open their mouth about how they are feeling, who say they're feeling great, who do really well, who itself. It does not mean, particularly in girls, that they are not struggling with other ways of self-hatred that you don't think so.(Not at all) Just, I love that you are asking because you are really gonna help educate all of us. (OK!) That just because one child(Looks perfect)looks like they escaped. (yeah!) They didn't...
- He had proved that he could be relied on in a crisis.他已表明,在紧要关头他是可以信赖的。
- The topic today centers about the crisis in the Middle East.今天课题的中心是中东危机。
- A dove is often used as a symbol of peace.鸽常作为和平的象征。
- Paul seemed more impressed by the dove.保尔似乎对鸽子更感兴趣。
- He launched a bitter diatribe against the younger generation. 他对年轻一代发起了猛烈的抨击。
- The product was launched amid much fanfare worldwide. 这个产品在世界各地隆重推出。
- We all agree in adopting the new teaching method. 我们一致同意采取新的教学方法。
- He created a new system of teaching foreign languages.他创造了一种新的外语教学体系。
- He's obsessed by computers. 他迷上了电脑。
- The fear of death obsessed him throughout his old life. 他晚年一直受着死亡恐惧的困扰。
- The label is on the inner side of the box.标签贴在盒子内侧。
- Other people seek the mountains for renewal of their inner lives.另一些人到深山中去,寻求新的精神生活。
- The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
- By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。
- We didn't get to the core of the subject.我们没触及问题的核心。
- The pear is rotten to the core.这梨全烂了。
- Make sure your subordinates understand your sense of urgency and work toward instilling this in allsubordinates. 确保你的下属同样具备判断紧急事件的意识,在工作中潜移默化地灌输给他们。 来自互联网
- These delicate plants need careful nurturing. 这些幼嫩的植物需要精心培育。
- The modern conservatory is not an environment for nurturing plants. 这个现代化温室的环境不适合培育植物。
- He is absolute ego in all thing.在所有的事情上他都绝对自我。
- She has been on an ego trip since she sang on television.她上电视台唱过歌之后就一直自吹自擂。