访谈录 Interview 2007-05-12&14, 如何获得幸福？

The road to happiness is easier than you think. Sign up now to join thousands of others in the I Feel Good Community Challenge ------ 6 weeks to a happier and more balanced you. Ivillage contributor Amy Hendel, is the health expert waiting to challenge.
Amy, good morning.
Good morning, and there’s a lot of happiness on this day.
Yeah, we feel good all the time. Tell us, what is this thing?
This is a six-week challenge to make women realize that they need to reclaim 1 a little me time. Women are out of balance, they don’t realize that they are doing so much for others, they’re not taking a little time for themselves.
So do you think, you know, in a sense of, women kinda feel, well, you know, I'm selfish if I am taking time for me, that’s time away from family and friends and responsibilities?
We are the natural caretakers, we are the point persons, we are the people that gotta do it 247 and yes, I think it has a negative connotation to take me time. We think of the women who do it to a fault, but we are actually being detrimental 2 to our own balance, you know, mental health and well-being 3 depend on having a little happiness in your life.
Ok, so let's focus on the features & the tools of the I Feel Good Community Challenge.
Ok.
First of all, a rant 4 board.
Yeah, because it’s not good to rant to your husband, it's not good to rant to your co-worker, your boss, maybe your friend. But you need a place to let it out. We wanna distressed 5 people, we want them to feel safe complaining, and then get on to the me time.
A, a, a "peace-of-mind" plan.
This is actually a tool that’s on the health aspect of the iVillage website ---- it’s ongoing 6 all the time but it specifically addresses stress and it personally tells you how to identify it and get rid of it. It’s gonna be important in this challenge.
And then you got the iConnect, I guess that’s where everybody comes together.
That’s the message board. That's where the community comes together 'cause it’s about supporting each other and giving each other ideas on how to do this.
Now you got down here a Daily Blog, is this your blog?
I do a daily blog, and I normally rant or rave 7 about the grave hell things going on. But specifically to this challenge, I'll be talking about the daily assignments, my own challenges with it, and how people can creatively get me time.
And then you got coaches, what kind of coaches?
Well, I'm a coach, and there’s another coach. We are actually gonna be accepting personal me time make-overs where somebody sends in email, and we give them four or five quick tips to carve out the time to realize why they need it and then to creatively find it.
And you've got I Feel Good Video, haha.
I am the I Feel Good …
After this morning on the "Today" set, maybe, but again then you’re home, get rid of the chaos 8, organizational skills, you've got to find me time by being creative about your organization.
You got some assignment tips, so that in other words, carve out me time…
carve out me time at home and on the job; on the job, the day before, take 10 minutes, set up your folders 9, set up your phone list, find out who's gonna need you tomorrow, so there are less surprises.. at home lay out your clothes; (Get the kids lunch done…) lay out the breakfast table, the lunches, even lay out your makeup 10 in order, so it can happen quickly and maybe you’ll get more sleep time, maybe you’ll get some exercises on.
And what I guess would be kind of a subset of the me time is find a hobby.
Absolutely, we need to reclaim passion and happiness, think about what made you happy as a kid, think about a new direction you wanna go and rethink your life goals, find quiet time to think about these stuff, and then realize how enhanced you life would be if you have it.
And you said avoid roadblocks. What are roadblocks?
Not being able to say no. You now, the just-say-no phrase? You need to invoke 11 it. We're PMSing meaning we are perfect mommy syndrome 12 people. We are the caretakers of the world? Say no, don’t be the head of every team, every group, don’t take every leadership role, tell your husband, communicate and say those hard words: Honey, I need help.
Ok, and when you say be creative, what do you mean?
I mean, you need to really be smart about how you carve out that me time. You need to save yourself, is my house needing a little zen-like recreation, so that I am not walking through chaos, so that I am not wasting time looking for things? Also be creative about what you wanna do with the time, make it valuable, healthy eating takes carve-out-me-time, exercise takes carve-out-me-time.
And it’s all on, all on the website.
All on the website and it starts May 21, (May 21.) Sign up now.
Ok, Amy, thanks so much.
If you wanna join the I Feel Good Community Challenge, go to todayshow.com, and visit the iVillage community.