告别幼稚！10大信号你已经长大成熟了

 　　Maturity 1 is a state when an individual is in a position to realize what is happening around him/her, to understand the rationale behind those happenings and does not get too elated nor too depressed 2 by final results. Thus he/she is in a position to absorb pressures and remain unperturbed by the situations around him/her. You can realize you have now matured by looking for following signs:

　　成熟是一种状态，当你突然意识到周围发生的一切，能够理解这些事情背后的缘由，不会因结果得意洋洋抑或一蹶不振，你就成熟了。你已经能够化解压力，不被周围的环境所干扰。看看下面的信号判断一下自己成熟没有吧：
　　1. You listen more and talk less
　　多听少说
　　When we realize as human beings we are built to hear more (because we have two ears) and speak less (we have one mouth/tongue); we gain more information and whatever we speak will be based on substantial reasoning. This will provide a glimpse of a thinking individual/rational person to the audience. Thus you shall be perceived more seriously, and in turn this will add to your confidence. It is the first sign of you becoming a more matured individual than what you were before.
　　当我们意识到作为人，我们需要多听（因为有两个耳朵）少说（只有一张嘴/一根舌头），我们就能获得更多的信息，说出的话也能基于靠谱的推断，这会让听众觉得这个人很有思想和逻辑性。这样你就会被认为是个更靠谱正经的人，同时还能增加自己的自信。这可以当成是你和以前相比变得成熟的第一个标志。
　　2. You do not shy away from responsibilities你不再羞于承担责任
　　As individuals we play a variety of roles in our societal set up. Be it for our family, our community, our friends, our country or for the human race in general. Additionally, we, being the highly successful species on Earth, should also be responsible for other species of this planet, as well as for sustaining the planet for future life forms. When you think in these terms, you behave in a more responsible manner. You not only perform your duties for your family or country, you also take care of mother earth. This makes you a matured individual on this planet.
　　作为个人，我们在社交圈里承担着各式各样的角色，包括家庭、社区，朋友们、国家甚至于人类这个大圈子。除此之外，我们作为地球上的最高级生物，也需要对其他物种负责，为了未来的生命框架保护这个地球的和谐发展。当你这样去思考问题，其实也就变得更加负责任了。你不仅在家庭或国家中承担了你的职责，你还照顾到了我们的地球母亲。这会让你成为更加成熟的人。
　　3. You are less argumentative and more accommodating你不再那么好辩
　　There are times when you think you are right in an argument but by winning an argument you may lose a friend. So, it may be advisable to refrain from arguing too much at these times. Quite often, when things are normal, the other person with whom there was an argument may realize your point of view, or it is also possible you understand his/her perspective better. For, just because someone is not agreeing to you, does not mean he/she is wrong. By arguing less, you are providing the required space and prestige to others, and at the same time you are buying more time for yourself to look at the other’s argument from another angle. And additionally, you command more respect from others. This shows you are now a matured individual.
　　有时你会觉得自己在辩论中是正确的，但如果赢得了辩论可能会失去朋友。所以最聪明的做法莫过于在此刻避免过多的争论。更多时候，如果不是什么大事，那个有自己观点的人也许会了解你的想法，或者你也可能更好的了解ta的立场。所以，别人不赞同你，并不代表ta就是错的。少辩论，也给别人提供了必须的空间和威望，同时你也能给自己争取更多时间来从别的角度审视别人的观点。除此之外，你还能从他人身上获得更多的尊重。这也能表明你变得更加成熟了。
　　4. You enjoy each season
　　你享受每个季节
　　Most of us have a likening for either summer or winter or spring or rains. That’s fine. But there is no need to get irritated whenever your favorite season has been replaced by another one. There is a cycle of seasons and life forms adapt to that. No one can control seasonal 3 cycles and no one should control them. So if you are enjoying changes in season, however abrupt 4 they might seem, you have grown into a matured individual.
　　大部分人都会更喜欢夏天或冬天或春天或雨季。这个没啥，但自己最爱的季节过去了也没必要感到恼火。季节的轮替就是这样，我们生命早已习惯如此。没有人可以控制季节的循环也不能去控制。所以如果你很享受季节的变换，不管变得多么突然，你已经变得更成熟了。
　　5. You wear a smile on your face
　　脸上带着微笑
　　Life is a topsy-turvy event. It doesn’t matter how hard scientists/researchers try to predict it, it remains 5 unpredictable. You plan for today in the morning, and by the afternoon you have to modify it to accommodate something unplanned. Whatever the situation may be, wearing a smile has a positive impact on your body and mind. So, if you are being found mostly with a smile, you should consider this as a sign of getting matured.
　　生活总是出其不意的。不管科学家/研究员多么努力的想去预言，还是无法确切估计。你早上做了今天的计划，下午有可能就需要为一些未知事件修改计划。不论情况如何，都带着微笑，这样能给身体和精神带来积极的影响。所以，如果你总是带着微笑，也可以看成是成熟的标志。
　　6. You love children and elders
　　你尊老爱幼
　　Most of us like to hangout with friends. Most of these friends are of the same age group. However, if you like to spend time with children and older people, you should consider yourself a mature individual. Quite often, spending time with people who are not in your age bracket helps you visualize 6 life in an entirely 7 different manner. These moments, later on, shall be counted in your experiences.
　　大部分人都喜欢和朋友泡在一起。我们大多数的朋友都是同龄人。然而，如果你愿意花时间和小孩老人们在一起，你就成熟了。大部分时候，花时间和不同年龄段的人在一起能帮你更好的以全然不同的方式看待生活。这些时刻，不久之后都会成为你的阅历。
　　7. You save more than what you expend 8
　　你存的比花的多
　　This one does not need any detail explanation. Saving more than the expenditures 9 will itself lend credibility to your maturity status.
　　这一条不需要什么具体的解释了。存的比花的多毫无疑问是你成熟的最可靠标志。
　　8. You indulge more in reading
　　你更多的时间花在阅读上
　　To be updated is of utmost priority in today’s knowledge-driven society. And probably one of the best ways to get informed is to read. If you are spending more time reading, this indicates you are serious about your business which is a sign of maturity.
　　在当今这样知识驱动的社会，适应是排在首位的。要想获得更多的信息，最好的方式莫过于阅读。如果你更多的时间花在阅读上，这就意味着你对自己的事情更加上心，也是成熟的标志。
　　9. You take care of yourself as well as others你照顾自己和别人
　　In the run of life, you may give less importance to yourself relative to your family members. However, you must realize you are no less significant. Therefore, you must take out time for yourself, and take care of your body and mind. This will, in turn lead to better performance in your duties which will render you as a responsible and matured person.
　　在生命的长河中，也许你觉得家人会比自己更加重要。然而，你必须意识到你是独一无二的。因此，你必须抽出时间来照顾自己，不仅身体还有思想。这能够反过来促进你更好地履行责任，让你成为有责任心的成年人。
　　10. You seek the signs of maturity
　　你试图寻求成熟的标志
　　You’re reading this article; this action itself shows you are serious about being considered mature. You now seem to shoulder your responsibilities and want to know the meaning of your existence. Therefore, you are looking for things you should know/do in order to become a responsible and mature citizen. This is a sign of you now being a mature individual.
　　你在看这篇文字，这个行为本身就代表你想要变得更加成熟。也许你想要承担责任，想知道自己存在的意义。因此，你在寻求那些要成为有责任成熟公民需要知道/做哪些事。这本身就说明你正在走向成熟。
　　Maturity brings with it responsibility. With responsibility comes sensibility. Sensibility leads to confidence. So move with confidence to show the world you have now matured.
　　成熟带来的是责任。责任带来的是感悟。感悟带来的是自信。所以自信的向这个世界展示你已经成熟了吧。