成功女性的十个好习惯（双语）

 　　These 10 habits of highly successful women are practical, easy, and effective — and they’re what “See Jane Soar” is all about! These tips for success range from maintaining your hormonal 1 balance to letting go of the past - and they affect your mind, body, and soul.

　　First, a quotation 2 from writer Anais Nin:
　　“Dreams pass into the reality of action. From the action stems the dream again; and this interdependence produces the highest form of living.”
　　Taking action is one of the most important habits of successful women…and so is dreaming. For inspiration and practical advice for succeeding in life after failure or knock-out punches, click on This is Not the Life I Ordered: 50 Ways to Keep Your Head Above Water When Life Keeps Dragging You Down by Deborah Collins Stephens et al.
　　10 Habits of Highly Successful Women
　　1. Maintain your hormonal balance. Are you moody 3, exhausted 4, irritable 5, or sad? Check your hormones 6. If they’re out of whack 7, then you’ll struggle to be successful! Make sure you’re getting enough protein and vitamins, and decrease your refined sugars and carbohydrates 8.
　　2. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Highly successful women don’t obsess 9 or feel guilty about past choices or failures. They make mistakes, move on, and apply what they’ve learned to new situations.
　　3. Connect with who you are. Being a daughter, wife, or mother is one aspect of your life. It doesn’t define who you are as a woman. To connect with who you are, find and express your authentic 10 self. The more authentic you are, the more appealing you’ll be to others - and to yourself!
　　4. Avoid energy vampires 11. Do you feel drained or sad after spending time with a particular friend, coworker, or relative? Limit the time you spend with him or her. Note how you feel after visiting with a certain person; if you feel energized 12 and happy, then you’re in good company. Highly successful women choose their companions wisely.
　　5. Speak kindly 13 to yourself! If you beat yourself up for being overweight, a “bad” mom, or not exercising enough, you just create a downward spiral. Highly successful women remind themselves of their achievements and successes. They refuse to tell themselves negative things; they accept themselves.
　　6. Listen to your body. I heard Oprah Winfrey say this about 10 years ago: listen to what your body is telling you. Are you emotionally hungry or physically 14 hungry? Feed yourself properly. Are you sad, furious, or depressed 15? Follow your body’s cues.
　　7. Volunteer your time. Find something that takes you out of your comfort zone or that you love to do. You’ll feel great that you’re helping 16 others out - and volunteering directly improves your physical health. Highly successful women step out of their comfort zones and takes risks.
　　8. Let go of perfectionism. Strive to do your best, but let go of perfectionist tendencies. Accepting that you’re doing the best you can is a habit of highly successful women. Letting go of perfectionism is vitamins and exercise for the soul!
　　9. Use your core strengths. Are you a natural mathematician 17, writer, or party planner? Discover your core strengths by trying different things until you find what fits. To take risks and try new things, take short-term volunteer positions or volunteer for new projects at work or in your community.
　　10. Take time for yourself. This habit for highly successful women is my favorite: take time to recharge your batteries and refuel your emotional, spiritual, and physical energy. Spend at least a few minutes alone each day - even if you have to lock yourself in the bathroom to do it!
　　首先，让我们看看来自作家Anais Nin的一段话：
　　“梦想转化为现实，现实又催生梦想，这种互生关系成就了生存的最高境界”
　　采取行动是成功女人最重要的习惯之一，另外，还要有梦想。如果想在挫折和失败时获得成功人生的激励及实用性建议，请参考Deborah Collins Stephens等人的著作《这不是我要的人生：当生活把你拖下水时保持浮出水面的50种方法》。
　　成功女人的十大习惯
　　1.保持荷尔蒙平衡。你是否极度情绪化、精疲力尽、暴躁易怒？请检查你的激素水平。假如激素水品紊乱，你是很难成功的！要保证汲取足够的蛋白质和维生素，减少精制糖及碳水化合物的摄入。
　　2.原谅自己的错误。成功的女性不会为过去的选择、失败感到困扰或愧疚。他们犯错后继续前进，将经验教训运用到新的情景当中。
　　3.与真实的自己保持联系。为人女儿、妻子或母亲都只是你人生中的一个面向，这些角色无法界定作为一个女人：你是谁。找到并表达真实的自己，与真实的自己联结。你越真实，其他人越会被你吸引；你也会更加喜欢自己！
　　4.远离吸取你能量的吸血鬼。你是否会觉得在跟某个特定的朋友、同事或家人在一起时有种被抽干或是悲伤的感觉？限制跟他/她相处的时间。注意观察你在见过一个特定的人之后的感受：假如你感到精神鼓舞心情愉快，那说明对方是一个很好的伙伴。成功的女人会明智地选择自己的朋友。
　　5.对自己温柔地说话！假如你痛斥自己超重、是个糟糕的妈妈、运动锻炼得不够，你只是制造了一个情绪下沉的漩涡。成功的女人会时刻提醒自己的功绩和成就，她们不会向自己传递负面的东西：她们接受自己。
　　6.倾听自己的身体。十年前我就听到Oprah Winfrey说过：倾听你的身体在告诉你什么。你是情绪上感到饥饿还是生理上真的饥饿？要合理地进食。你是否感到悲伤、愤怒或沮丧？要关注身体的暗示。
　　7.奉献你的时间。找到一些把你带离舒适区域的事或你热爱去做的事。帮助别人会使你感觉很棒 －－ 而且志愿活动可以直接增进你的生理健康。成功的女人会走出自己的舒适区域并愿意承担风险。
　　8.放弃完美主义。努力做到最好，但是放弃成为一个完美主义者的倾向。接受自己正在全力投入的现状是成功女人的另一个习惯。放弃完美主义是精神上的维他命和运动锻炼。
　　9.运用你的核心特长。你是否是个天生的数学家？作家？或宴会组织者？尝试不同的事物，直到发现你的核心特长。承担风险，尝试新事物，参加一些短期志愿活动或在工作上社区里志愿承担一些新项目。
　　10.给自己留些时间。这是成功女人的习惯当中我最喜欢的一条：花时间为自己充电，补给自己的情绪、精神和身体能量。每天至少花上几分钟独处 －－ 即使你必须把自己锁在洗手间里来这样做也没关系。