美国国家公共电台 NPR Separated First By War, Then Sickness, 2 WWII Veterans Are Laid To Rest Together

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The love story between Isabell and Preble Staver came quietly to an end last month. The couple was together for more than seven decades. The Stavers were two of the hundreds of World War II veterans who are dying each day. NPR's Sarah McCammon attended their funeral in Virginia Beach over Veterans Day weekend, and she has this remembrance.

SARAH MCCAMMON, BYLINE 1: Like so many couples of their generation, the romance of Isabell Whitney and Preble Staver was interrupted by World War II.

LAURIE STAVER CLINTON: They met on a blind date, and the romance bloomed.

MCCAMMON: Laurie Staver Clinton says her parents both served, her mother as a Navy nurse and her father in the Marine 2 Corps 3. They were married soon after the war ended. Staver Clinton describes Preble Staver, a Bronze Star recipient 4, as a tall, outgoing man with a strong, larger-than-life personality.

CLINTON: And then Mom, oh, my gosh. She really was my heart.

MCCAMMON: Isabell Staver spent years raising the couple's five children before eventually returning to work. Staver Clinton says her mom kept the family running through multiple moves for Preble's career and the loss of one of their sons, Peter, who died after a high school football injury in the 1970s.

CLINTON: She taught me how to be a kind person, how to be a compassionate 5 person.

MCCAMMON: As Isabell slipped into dementia in recent years, Preble struggled to cope. Last year, they had to be moved to separate rooms at their long-term care facility.

CLINTON: So when I would explain the need for the separation, Mom would look and see - she would go, but that's Daddy. That's Preble.

MCCAMMON: Jim Need, a friend from church who visited Preble often as his health began to fail, says his love for Isabell was clear.

JIM NEED: Sometimes he was a little frustrated 6 because he - she may not recognize him, but the few times when she did, you could always see him just smiling, you know, like crazy.

MCCAMMON: Laurie Staver Clinton says her parents shared a moment like that just days before their death when Isabell was taken to visit Preble's room for his 96th birthday.

CLINTON: Then all of a sudden, I heard this little, warbly voice.

(SOUNDBITE OF ARCHIVED RECORDING)

ISABELL STAVER: (Singing) Happy birthday, dear Preble. Happy birthday to you.

CLINTON: Mom had stopped initiating 7 course of conversation due to the disease process, and for her on Dad's birthday to sing "Happy Birthday" to him was just so touching 8.

MCCAMMON: Staver Clinton says all her father wanted for his birthday was to take a nap next to his wife, something they hadn't been able to do for a while. So the family arranged to lay Preble and Isabell in bed together where they slept side by side for two or three hours.

CLINTON: And it was really the catalyst 9 of them being able to let go, I believe. Mom was much calmer after that.

MCCAMMON: Within a few days, a hospice nurse told Staver Clinton that both of her parents were moving closer to death. On October 25, days before what would have been her 96th birthday, Isabell received last rites 10 from their Episcopal priest while Preble held her hand. About 14 hours after Isabel died, Preble was gone, too.

(SOUNDBITE OF ARCHIVED RECORDING)

UNIDENTIFIED MAN: The Lord be with you.

UNIDENTIFIED CROWD: And with thy spirit.

MCCAMMON: Preble's friend Jim Need says he thinks Preble was holding on just long enough.

NEED: I have no doubt. I honestly feel he was waiting for her, you know, the - kind of the Marine - and this is a good thing - Marine mentality 11. He was going to take care of her until he knew she was OK.

(SOUNDBITE OF ARCHIVED RECORDING)

UNIDENTIFIED CROWD: (Singing) Oh, God, our help in ages past...

MCCAMMON: On Friday afternoon, with a Marine honor guard standing 12 by, Isabell and Preble Staver were laid down together one last time, side by side in the old church cemetery 13. Sarah McCammon, NPR News, Virginia Beach.