9种方式做个更好的人

 　　Here are 9 ways to be a better person through self-development:

　　下面9个自我提升的方法有助于成为更好的人：
　　1. Be Willing To Change
　　愿意改变
　　In order to become a better person, you have to be willing to change. Change is the only way to grow and progress into the person you want to become. Many people are against change, which can make it very hard to grow. When you keep an open mind and are willing to change, you are able to grow into the person you want to become.
　　想成为更好的人，就必须乐于改变。改变是成为期望中自我的唯一途径。许多人不愿改变，所以也很难有所成长。如果你敞开心胸接受改变，很可能会长成期望中的自己。
　　2. Stop Making Excuses
　　停止找借口
　　When I first started my company in high school, I made excuses every time something went wrong. I would blame others, blame the customer, or anyone else involved. However, I would never blame myself for things that went wrong.
　　当我高中第一次创建自己的公司时，一出现问题，我总是不自觉地找借口。我责怪他人、抱怨客户或任何相关的人，但就是不觉得自己有问题。
　　Instead, I learned that taking accountability for your own mistakes is extremely important. I stopped making excuses, took the blame when it was truly my fault, and was able to achieve so much more. By understanding that I made a mistake, I was able to use my mistakes to learn which in turn helped me become a better person.
　　然后，我发现承认自己的错误非常重要。因此我不再找借口，而是坦诚承认错误，这样一切反倒更加顺利。通过意识到自己的错误，我学会吸取教训并成为一个更好的人。
　　3. Stop Being Angry
　　停止愤怒
　　Many people let anger and rage alter their decision-making skills. I used to be an angry person growing up, but I only saw it damage relationships with people and increase my blood pressure.
　　很多人因生气或愤怒而方寸大乱。以前我也是一个“愤青”。但我发现，愤怒只会恶化人际关系并影响身心健康。
　　Controlling anger is an extremely difficult skill to master, but it is very beneficial. Instead of getting angry, I decided 1 to find a way to change my negative emotion. Staying angry doesn’t help me or solve any problems, it only creates more of them. Find some way of relaxing your nerves when you’re angry, a stress ball was very helpful for me.
　　要控制愤怒并不容易，但做到以后却能获益匪浅。于是我决定，与其生气，不如想办法改变消极情绪。愤怒不仅解决不了问题，反而会使情况更糟。生气时请试着放松神经吧。比如，减压球对我就很有效。
　　4. Be A Role Model
　　成为榜样
　　Sometimes you need to be a role model to someone to really get your act together. Once I became an entrepreneur and people started to look up to me, I became a lot more cautious about the way I behaved. I didn’t want to disappoint people by showing them I was immature 2 or a bad role model.
　　有时只有当你率先模范，别人才会按你的要求去做。当我成为企业家后，人们都开始以我为榜样，于是我在言行上谨慎了很多。我不希望因为自己不成熟或言行恶劣而使他人失望。
　　You can start small and be a “big brother” to someone, coach a kids’ team, or be a role model to your children. No matter what you choose to do, always make decisions that the person looking up to you will respect.
　　你可以从小处做起，比如成为某人的“大哥”、小孩的教练或自己子女的模范。不管你是怎样的角色，做出的决定一定要足够让对方尊重。
　　5. Forgive Someone
　　原谅他人
　　Forgiving someone who hurt you is very difficult to do. When I got upset at someone for doing something, I could never forgive them. Even if it was a petty thing, I would hold it against them for the rest of their lives which was not healthy.
　　原谅伤害自己的人真的很难。以前我很“记仇”，要是谁做了对不起我的事，哪怕是鸡毛蒜皮，我都会一直耿耿于怀。其实这样很不好。
　　I quickly learned that humans are prone 3 to making mistakes. Instead of holding mistakes against them for life, try to forgive someone. To become a better person, go through your past and forgive someone that did something to hurt you.
　　很快我发现，人都会犯错。与其因某人犯错而记恨一辈子，不如选择宽恕。尝试做个更好的人，忘记过去，原谅曾经伤害自己的人。
　　6. Listen To People
　　用心倾听
　　People are extremely busy with their careers, families, and lives. Everyone is in a rush, but people rarely ever have time to listen to what others have to say. I learned that listening to people and giving everyone a voice is one of the greatest things you can do.
　　人们总是忙于应付事业、家庭和生活，所有人都很忙碌，无暇顾及他人到底在说什么。但我发现，倾听并回应他人非常重要。
　　I got to meet some of the most amazing people, close some of the biggest deals, and develop connections that will last me a lifetime all because I took time to listen to people. Being a good listener can change your life in a positive manner.
　　我宁愿放下重大生意，也要赴约去见有意思的人；正因为我乐意倾听，这些人往往也会变成我的终生好友。擅于倾听能积极改变人生。
　　7. Be Honest
　　诚实诚恳
　　Honest people are hard to come by nowadays. However, honesty is the best remedy for any situation. Promise yourself that you won’t tell any lies for a month straight.
　　当今社会，诚实的人并不多见。但诚实却是任何情况下最重要的品质。请先尝试一个月内不讲一句谎话吧。
　　Challenge yourself to be honest by developing good habits. If you’re a compulsive liar 4, start small by trying to be honest for 1 day. After you accomplish a smaller goal, increase the goal by 2 or 3.
　　请试着养成好习惯、学着诚实做人。如果你总不自觉地撒谎，那就先试着1天不说谎，然后再慢慢将目标增加到2天或3天。
　　8. Do Something You Don’t Want To
　　做点自己不愿意的事情
　　Keeping an open mind and trying things that you wouldn’t normally do is a very easy way to become a better person. Take a risk and challenge yourself to try something you’ve always been scared to do.
　　敞开心怀去尝试自己一般不会去做的事情有助于成为更好的人。冒一次险，挑战自己，尝试去做一直害怕的事情吧。
　　Growing up, I was terrified of roller coasters. However, I eventually gave in as a teenager and had the time of my life. I would have never experienced roller coasters unless I had been willing to get over my fear and give it a shot. That one experience has led me to try numerous other new things.
　　成长时期我很害怕坐过山车，因为年轻气盛，还是尝试了一下，结果记忆深刻。如果不是因为克服内心恐惧勇敢迈出一步，或许我永远也体会不到坐过山车的乐趣。这个经验使我勇于尝试其他更多的新鲜事情。
　　9. Surprise Someone Special
　　给特别的人带去惊喜
　　Do you have a loved one in your life? Whether it’s your spouse 5/romantic partner, your children, or a family member, plan a special surprise for them. If you know someone who deserves a nice vacation or a new gift, go buy it for them.
　　你生命中也有心爱的人吧？不论是伴侣、恋人、子女还是亲人，都值得你准备一场惊喜。如果想送某人礼物或跟某人度假，那就拿出行动。
　　One of the most rewarding feelings in the world are knowing that you made someone smile. Surprise the special someone in your life by doing something out of the ordinary for them!
　　世上最令人满足的莫过于知道自己能给他人带来快乐。做一件不寻常的事，给生命中心爱的人带去惊喜吧！
　　去经历去体验做最好最真实的自己
　　Truly happy and successful people get that way by becoming the best, most genuine version of themselves they can be. Not on the outside--on the inside. It's not about a brand, a reputation, a persona. It's about reality. Who you really are.
　　真正快乐成功的人会长成最好最真实的自己--从内心而非外表上。重要的不是品牌、名誉或者外表形象，而是真实的自我。
　　Sounds simple, I know. It is a simple concept. The problem is, it's very hard to do, it takes a lot of work, and it can take a lifetime to figure it out.
　　道理很简单，讲出来也很容易。但问题是，做起来就不简单了：这需要付诸很多努力，甚或一辈子才能实现。
　　Nothing worth doing in life is ever easy. If you want to do great work, it's going to take a lot of hard work to do it. And you're going to have to break out of your comfort zone and take some chances that will scare the crap out of you.
　　需要穷尽毕生精力的事情必定不容易。成大事者必先苦其心志。因此，你必须走出舒适区，去经历、去体验那些会让你害怕的机会。
　　But you know, I can't think of a better way to spend your life. I mean, what's life for if not finding yourself and trying to become the best, most genuine version of you that you can be?
　　况且，人这一辈子，若到头来都认不清自己、未能长成最好最真实的自己，还有什么意义呢？
　　That's what Steve Jobs meant when he said this at a Stanford University commencement speech:
　　正如史蒂夫-乔布斯在斯坦福大学的毕业典礼上所言：
　　Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice.
　　时间宝贵，不要虚掷光阴过着他人的生活。不要让周遭的聒噪言论蒙蔽你内心的声音。
　　You have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something--your gut 6, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
　　你要相信，生活中的偶然冥冥中也能指引未来。你要心怀信念--相信你的直觉、命运、生活抑或因缘。这个方法一直给我力量，促使我过得卓然不同。
　　The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle.
　　成大事的唯一途径就是做自己喜欢的事情。若你还没找到，那就继续追寻吧，不要停下来。
　　Now, let's for a moment be realistic about this. Insightful as that advice may be, it sounds a little too amorphous 7 and challenging to resonate with today's quick-fix culture. These days, if you can't tell people exactly what to do and how to do it, it falls on deaf ears.
　　现在我们来实际一点：建议或许很深刻，但听完却让人无从着手，难以运用到当今的快节奏文化中。现如今，如果一个建议讲不清具体做什么、该怎么做的话，那么说了也等于白说。
　　Not only that, but what Jobs was talking about, what I'm talking about, requires focus and discipline, two things that are very hard to come by these days. Why? Because, focus and discipline are hard. It's so much easier to give in to distraction 8 and instant gratification. Easy and addictive 9.
　　不仅如此，乔布斯的讲话和我要说的话都需要集中和自制--这两个品质在当今社会非常难能可贵。何以见得？因为集中和自制都不容易做到。人们很容易分散注意力、寻求即时快感--舒服且容易上瘾。
　　To give you a little incentive 10 to take on the challenge, to embark 11 on the road to self-discovery, here are three huge benefits from working to become the best, most genuine version of yourself.
　　为激励你迎接挑战、踏上寻求自我的旅途，我列出了成为最好最真实自己后的三大益处：
　　It will make you happy. Getting to know yourself will make you feel more comfortable in your own skin. It will reduce your stress and anxiety. It will make you a better spouse, a better parent, a better friend. It will make you a better person. Those are all pretty good reasons, if you ask me.
　　你会感到快乐。了解自己后会让你更愉悦地接受自己，减轻你的压力和焦虑，使你成为更好的伴侣、父母、朋友，让你成为一个更美好的人。这些益处难道不够说服你为之努力吗？
　　Besides, you really won't achieve anything significant in life until you know the real you. Not your brand, your LinkedIn profile, how you come across, or what anyone thinks of you. The genuine you. There's one simple reason why you shouldn't try to be something you're not, and it's that you can't. The real you will come out anyway. So forget your personal brand and start spending time on figuring out who you really are and trying to become the best version of that you can be.
　　而且，只有了解真实的自己方能成就大事。你需要了解那个真实的你，而不是你的品牌、名誉、LinkedlIn资料、你的过去抑或他人对你的看法。为什么你不应该过他人的生活？很简单，因为首先你不是“其他人”，你的本性总有一天会现形。所以，请放开你的品牌形象，努力发掘真实自我、努力把自己经营成最好的自己吧。
　　You pay a huge price when you engage in mindless distraction. The only people that really care about you are your loved ones, your friends and family. Everyone else is too busy living his own little mini drama. To put it bluntly, your network couldn't care less about you.
　　盲目分心的代价很大。真正在乎你的只有你所爱的人、你的亲人和朋友。而其他人都只围着自己的小日子转罢了。说穿了，社交关系中的人并不可靠。
　　That's why engaging yourself and others in mindless distraction isn't worth your time or theirs. More important, it will absolutely keep you from focusing on accomplishing whatever great things you might manage to achieve in life if you set your mind to it.
　　所以，浪费时间盲目分心应付自己或他人都没有意义。更严重的是，当你决心着手生活中的大计划时，分心会有碍你集中完成目标。
　　There's a business concept called opportunity cost. When you choose one course of action, you miss out on all the other opportunities you might have chosen to pursue but didn't. People rarely stop to consider that until it's too late.
　　有一个商业术语叫“机会成本”。当你选定某个行为时，你也会错过其他原本可以选择的机会。很少有人能意识到这一点，就算意识到也为时已晚。
　　It's the most exciting journey you will ever embark on. We're all enthralled 12 by adventure. We love to read and watch movies about other people's journeys, real or imagined. The Hobbit. Raiders of the Lost Ark. Into Thin Air.
　　这将是一段前所未有的有趣旅程。我们都乐于于冒险，热爱阅读和观看有关他人或真实或虚构的旅程电影，例如，《霍比特人》、《夺宝奇兵》或《走进空气稀薄地带》。
　　We love to take vacations, to travel to all sorts of places. And when we do, we revel 13 in the natural beauty of Kauai's Na Pali Coast, the Grand Canyon 14, the Alps. We marvel 15 at the great works of others: the art, the architecture, the Pyramids, Stonehenge.
　　我们热爱假期，喜欢到各地旅行。我们会惊叹于考艾岛上纳波利海岸的自然风光，迷上美国大峡谷、阿尔卑斯山。我们也会惊叹于他人的杰作：艺术、建筑、金字塔、巨石阵等等。
　　And yet, the opportunity for adventure is right there in front of each and every one of us. Until you take it, you'll never know what you might achieve. What marvels 16 you might create. What you might discover. All you have to do is start the journey.
　　而且，冒险之门向每个人敞开。打开这扇门之前，谁也不知道能获得哪些收获，会创造哪些奇迹，又将有什么新的发现……你所要做的，仅仅是启程。