时间:2019-02-16 作者:英语课 分类:英语语言学习


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FRAIDY REISS: Arranged marriage - where I grew up in the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community, this was just how marriage worked. And it was something I very much wanted to do. Most girls in my community were married at age 18 or 19, tops. And I had no qualms 1 about it.
SIMON: That's the voice of Fraidy Reiss, who, at the age of 19, found herself trapped in an abusive relationship with seemingly no way out. And as she tried to raise her two young daughters, she began to fear for all of their lives. She eventually did manage to free herself and went on to found Unchained At Last, a nonprofit organization dedicated 2 to helping 3 women leave arranged and forced marriages.
It is hard to measure how many arranged marriages occur in the United States every year. They are an accepted part of life in certain communities, and they can often turn into happy partnerships 4. But when they don't, as you will hear in this interview with Rachel Martin, it can be difficult to get out. Fraidy Reiss is our Sunday conversation.
REISS: I was aware that there was an outside world, which I was told my whole life was a terrible, unhappy world. And I always that our way of life and our way of marriage was superior.
RACHEL MARTIN, HOST:
So you were married at the age of 19. Who were you partnered with?
REISS: So the matchmaker, who actually was my mother's first cousin, partnered me with somebody. And this was somebody who knew the families. She knew his family, knew my family, didn't know us very well. And that was typical. So, you know, I was from a poor family. He was from a poor family.
MARTIN: There you go.
(LAUGHTER)
REISS: Enough said. Match made in poverty heaven. Yeah. But, you know, I knew him for a total of three months when I married him. That was including our engagement. And during that entire time, we were never allowed to be alone together or have any physical contact. But it never occurred to me that I was doing anything other than what I had always dreamed of doing.
MARTIN: When did it become clear to you that it was not that? When did things start to go wrong?
REISS: Actually, only a week after our wedding. That was when my husband woke up late one morning and became infuriated that he was late. And just was so frustrated 5 that he started jumping up and down and cursing and screaming. And then, in a fit of rage, he punched his fist through the wall in our apartment and left a big hole in the sheet rock and ran out. And that's when I stood there shaking and looking at this hole in the wall and thinking, oh, my God.
 
And so what happened was, you know, we lived together for 12 years. And during that time, he would come lunging at me. And he would actually describe in graphic 6 detail how he was going to kill me. If we were driving in the car, he would speed up to 100 and them slam on the break to send me flying.
MARTIN: During this time, are you looking for help? Were you getting help and support from your parents, from your community? Did you tell people what was going on?
REISS: At first, I didn't. And then, as I slowly realized that my life was in danger, I did. I started - I went to my family, I went to his family, and I went to rabbis. But the reaction from everybody was the same. It was, you know, he's a good guy. He has a little bit of a temper, but, you know, it's fine.
MARTIN: So how did you get out? - because you did.
REISS: I - at age 27, after a particularly violent episode, I became, I believe, the first woman in the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community in Lakewood, New Jersey 7, to walk into the police department and to ask for a temporary restraining order against my husband. But it turned out to be a big mistake because what I realized too late was that now, you know, one of the gravest sins in the Orthodox Jewish community is ratting out your fellow Jew to the secular 8 authorities.
So the rabbis in Lakewood sent an Orthodox Jewish male attorney to my house to drive with me to family court and to tell the judge that I wanted to drop the restraining order. And so the way I got out was I was the first person in my family to go to college. And once I graduated and had a degree and had a way to support myself financially and my two girls, I was finally able to leave.
MARTIN: Able to leave, but what does that mean in the context of the ultra-Orthodox Jewish community?
REISS: My family - my entire family shunned 9 me. And they all - they declared me dead. So after that, you know, when I took the steps and I finally, you know, got divorced and then, you know, left the religion completely, my family was already - I had already lost my entire family.
MARTIN: So you started this organization. And what did you find? Who were the women who were knocking on your door, so to speak?
REISS: A lot of them are from the Orthodox Jewish community, but a lot of them are from various Muslim communities. They're South Asian, Middle Eastern, African. A lot of them are women that, 10 years ago, I would've walked past them on the street and thought that we had nothing in common.
MARTIN: What are the laws around this in this country - around forced marriage?
REISS: There are very few laws and policies in place in the U.S. to prevent or to punish forced marriage. So there are 10 states and territories that have some laws that can be used. So it's, you know - it's kind of scary.
MARTIN: So what support can you offer the women who come to your organization? What do you tell them? What can you do?
REISS: We get them free legal representation. Often, you know, there's a divorce, custody 10 battle. Often, too, there's an immigration matter, domestic violence matters. So we get them free legal representation for all of that. And then, there are a lot of social services that they need obviously to rebuild their lives. So, you know, psychotherapy, career counseling, financial planning. That sort of thing.
MARTIN: Are you in touch with your family at all?
REISS: Sadly, I am not. It's been seven years, and I'm still dead to them.
MARTIN: How are your daughters with all of this?
REISS: Well, you know, my daughters, you know, have you been through this incredible journey with me. And, you know, leaving everything we knew and discovering this big outside world that we always had been taught was so evil and awful - turns out it's actually pretty wonderful. And so, you know, the adjustment was difficult for all of us. It took time. But my daughters are doing wonderfully now. My older daughter is actually finishing up her first year of college at age 18. So instead of getting married, she's getting her college degree and, you know, has all kinds of options open to her for the rest of her life.
MARTIN: Fraidy Reiss is the founder 11 of Unchained At Last, an organization that helps women trapped in forced marriages. She joined us from our studios in New York. Fraidy, thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
REISS: Oh, thank you, Rachel.

n.不安;内疚
  • He felt no qualms about borrowing money from friends.他没有对于从朋友那里借钱感到不安。
  • He has no qualms about lying.他撒谎毫不内疚。
adj.一心一意的;献身的;热诚的
  • He dedicated his life to the cause of education.他献身于教育事业。
  • His whole energies are dedicated to improve the design.他的全部精力都放在改进这项设计上了。
n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的,辅助的
  • The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
  • By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。
n.伙伴关系( partnership的名词复数 );合伙人身份;合作关系
  • Partnerships suffer another major disadvantage: decision-making is shared. 合伙企业的另一主要缺点是决定要由大家来作。 来自英汉非文学 - 政府文件
  • It involved selling off limited partnerships. 它涉及到售出有限的合伙权。 来自辞典例句
adj.挫败的,失意的,泄气的v.使不成功( frustrate的过去式和过去分词 );挫败;使受挫折;令人沮丧
  • It's very easy to get frustrated in this job. 这个工作很容易令人懊恼。
  • The bad weather frustrated all our hopes of going out. 恶劣的天气破坏了我们出行的愿望。 来自《简明英汉词典》
adj.生动的,形象的,绘画的,文字的,图表的
  • The book gave a graphic description of the war.这本书生动地描述了战争的情况。
  • Distinguish important text items in lists with graphic icons.用图标来区分重要的文本项。
n.运动衫
  • He wears a cotton jersey when he plays football.他穿运动衫踢足球。
  • They were dressed alike in blue jersey and knickers.他们穿着一致,都是蓝色的运动衫和灯笼短裤。
n.牧师,凡人;adj.世俗的,现世的,不朽的
  • We live in an increasingly secular society.我们生活在一个日益非宗教的社会。
  • Britain is a plural society in which the secular predominates.英国是个世俗主导的多元社会。
v.避开,回避,避免( shun的过去式和过去分词 )
  • She was shunned by her family when she remarried. 她再婚后家里人都躲着她。
  • He was a shy man who shunned all publicity. 他是个怕羞的人,总是避开一切引人注目的活动。 来自《简明英汉词典》
n.监护,照看,羁押,拘留
  • He spent a week in custody on remand awaiting sentence.等候判决期间他被还押候审一个星期。
  • He was taken into custody immediately after the robbery.抢劫案发生后,他立即被押了起来。
n.创始者,缔造者
  • He was extolled as the founder of their Florentine school.他被称颂为佛罗伦萨画派的鼻祖。
  • According to the old tradition,Romulus was the founder of Rome.按照古老的传说,罗穆卢斯是古罗马的建国者。
学英语单词
al-amarah
antilabour
Araka
asamblea
autosuggestive
bang head against
Belg
blade with stepped root
bottom inner casing
bronnert process
buttillaries
calsey
Christia obcordata
coincidence factor
cone-apex angle
control of nematode
crude-copper
crustal disturbance
cultivated grassland
curry muncher
cyberbanks
digitalia
discharage
dredging equipment
drying hopper
dzhou
earthing installation
eclipse end
ecocritical
electronic punch
Eugaimardia
film scribing
fornicate
frances elizabeth caroline willards
Fugo
Garnet-jade
gear-stocking cutter
grade compensation
guttae argenti nitratis
Honeywell file access system
Hubble Atlas
hyalitis punctata
improper installation
infrared-guided missile
inter specified index
islet cell transplantation
Jackson's candle turbidimeter
Jerichoite
kidney tubules
Kwania, L.
leached
low-ceilinged
machinery classification certificate
make perfect
mononuclear leukocyte
moving coordinate
mucoraceaes
oil-gas anticlinal deposit
oner
oriente
output register empty
parlier
parroket, parroquet
periodograms
perturbant
pig-run
plasma lemma(seifriz 1928)'plasma membrane
polar code
polyvinyl acetate resin adhesive
Primula epilithica
pseudoglaucoma
psoralea esculentas
pyrolytic gas chromatography
relman
Rhododendron pemakoense
rough-terrain truck
SAP97
Scaliger, Joseph Justus
schwedler
seeming
show ankle
sialis lutarias
Staroye Maksimkino
str/n mouse
submitting entity
subroutine analyzer
supporting block for location
swing link guide
thermal chemical vapor deposition
thermocople junction
three-point attitude
threw her weight around
transposition type
triophosphoramide
turbocompressors
utility tape processor
vestigital sideband
water proofing of basement
wavelength resolution
way-going crop
wheat consumption
yellow tail