时间:2018-11-29 作者:英语课 分类:四级晨读英语美文


英语课

Love Is Not Like Merchandise 1


A reader in Florida apparently2 bruised3 by some personal experience, writes in to complain, “If I steal a nickel’s4 worth of merchandise, I am a thief and punished; but if I steal the love of another’s wife, I am free.”


This is a prevalent5 misconception in many people’s minds — that love, like merchandise, can be “stolen”. Numerous 2 states, in fact, have enacted6 laws allowing damages for “alienation of affections7”.


But love is not a commodity 3; the real thing cannot be bought, sold, traded or stolen. It is an act of the will, a turning of the emotions, a change in the climate of the personality.


When a husband or wife is “stolen” by another person, that husband or wife was already ripe for the stealing, and was already predisposed8 toward 4 a new partner. The “lovebandit9” was only taking what was waiting to be taken, what wanted to be taken.


We tend to treat persons like goods. We even speak of children “belonging” to their parents. But nobody “belongs” to anyone else. Each person belongs to himself. Children are entrusted10 to their parents, and if their parents do not treat them properly, the state has a right to remove them from their parents’ trusteeship11.


Most of us, when young, had the experience of a sweetheart being taken from us by somebody more attractive and more appealing12. At the time, we may have resented 5 this intruder—but as we grew older, we recognized that the sweetheart had never been ours to begin with13. It was not the intruder that “caused” the break, but the lack of a real relationship.


On the surface, many marriages seem to break up because of a “third party.” This is, however, a psychological14 illusion15. The other woman or the other man merely serves as a pretext16 for dissolving a marriage that had already lost its essential integrity17.

爱情不是商品


  一位佛罗里达州读者显然是在个人经历上受过创伤,他写信来抱怨道:“如果我偷走了五分钱的商品,我就是个贼,要受到惩罚;但是如果我偷走了他人妻子的爱情,我没事儿。”


这是许多人心目中普遍存在的一种错觉——爱情,像商品一样,可以“偷走”。实际上,许多州都颁布法令,允许索取“情感转让”赔偿金。


  但是爱情并不是商品;真情实意不可能买到、卖掉、交换,或者偷走。爱情是一种意愿的行为,是感情的转向,是个性上的变化。


  当丈夫或妻子被另一个人“偷走”时,那个丈夫或妻子就已经具备了被偷走的条件,事先已经准备接受新的伴侣了。这位“爱匪”不过是取走等人取走、盼人取走的东西。


  我们往往待人如物。我们甚至说孩子“属于”父母。但是谁也不“属于”谁。人都属于自己。孩子是托付给父母的,如果父母不善待他们,政府有权取消父母对他们的托管身份。


  我们多数人年轻时都有过恋人被某个更有魅力、更迷人的人夺去的经历。在当时,我们兴许怨恨这位不速之客——但是后来长大了,也就认识到了心上人本来就不属于我们。并不是不速之客 “导致了”决裂,而是缺乏真正的感情。


  从表面上看,许多婚姻似乎是因为有了 “第三者”才破裂的。然而这是一种心理上的错觉。另外那个女人,或者另外那个男人,无非是作为借口,用来解除早就不是完好无损的婚姻罢了。



1 merchandise
n.商品,货物;v.经营,推销,销售,经商
  • There's no use in manufacturing an item unless you can merchandise it.除非能够销售得出,否则生产产品就没有价值。
  • Please don't handle the merchandise.请不要摸这些商品。
2 numerous
adj.为数众多的;极多的
  • There have been numerous exchanges of views between the two governments.两国政府间曾多次交换意见。
  • There are numerous people in the square. 有许多人在广场上。
3 commodity
n.日用品,商品,物品
  • The authorities took measures to roll commodity price back.当局采取措施使物价全面回降。
  • Commodity prices remain stable and there are plenty of goods on the market.商品价格稳定,市场货源充足。
4 toward
prep.对于,关于,接近,将近,向,朝
  • Suddenly I saw a tall figure approaching toward the policeman.突然间我看到一个高大的身影朝警察靠近。
  • Upon seeing her,I smiled and ran toward her. 看到她我笑了,并跑了过去。
5 resented
对…感到愤怒( resent的过去式和过去分词 ); 关系( regard的过去式和过去分词 ); 再差遣; 再发
  • She resented the insinuation that she was too old for the job. 她憎恶暗示她太老不适合这项工作的话。
  • I deeply resented her criticism. 我对她的批评感到非常气愤。
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Afrara
Apsifen
argon shielded arc welding
arteriae clitoridis
Asclepius, Asclepios
autocytolysin
bas mitzvahed
be living proof of
bore by
bromophenylmercuric chloride
C1-chemistry
complex crystalline glaze
condicion
constant-current regulation
counter resolving time
counter-chevroned
covalent component
cystopteriss
deconvolvers
discontinuous yielding
doctored
edge-tool
Elephas
endobiphyta
filter bulb
foam type cake
form-masters
free-heartedness
general practice
goof-ups
Groslay
Havixbeck
homosulfanilamide
htas
hygrophorus caeruleuss
hypervariability
i knew it
infuse new blood into
interest code
internal redox indicator
inundated plain
jettiness
Justification.
Kartvel
Khevsureti
kinestases
Kovač Planina
lackeyed
Las Ventas de San Julian
leucospids
liveyer
load-density
low-carbohydrate
mellisugous
milroy's diesase
model, reference
monochrome signal bandwidth
Morwenstow
multiband spectrometer
Nemecomyces
Ninock
nonsingular matrixes
nose spar
ore geochemistry
patriarchism
patriciate
peepboes
phantasmatic
photon fluence rate
pIgGs
playground balls
porporino
propitiatoire
pyrazolidyl
Qbuffer
raging agreement
reattempted
recognition rate
renatured
riser turret mooring
rosin-maleic ester
sidda
sleeve-type coupling
sp hybrid
spin-precession
staff objective
stomach worm
storm pit
subsea blowout preventer control pod
Thecata
thermometer guard unit
turbinaria peltata
Umm Bushah
uterine sisterts
vessels
videomaking
Villefranche-de-Lonchat
virginal generation
warm air-mass
Wood Cree
wyedean