时间:2018-12-05 作者:英语课 分类:自考英语综合二上册 课文+单词


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  [00:00.00]Lesson Five Text

[00:04.88]Are You Giving Your Kids Too Much?

[00:09.53]Benjamin Spock

[00:13.19]While traveling for various speaking engagements,

[00:18.83]I frequently stay overnight in the home of a family

[00:23.67]and am assigned to one of the children's bedrooms.

[00:29.10]In it,I often find so many playthings

[00:33.54]that there's almost no room for my small toilet kit 1.

[00:39.00]And the closet is usually so tightly packed with clothes

[00:46.26]that I can barely squeeze in my jacket.

[00:50.52]I'm not complaining, only making a point.

[00:55.88]I think that the tendency to give children an overabundance of toys and clothes

[01:04.63]is quite common in American families,

[01:09.20]and I think that in far too many families

[01:14.84]not only do children come to take their parents' generosity 2 for granted,

[01:20.72]but also the effects of this can actually be somewhat harmful to children.

[01:27.88]Of course,I'm not only thinking of the material possessions children are given.

[01:36.03]Children can also be overindulged with too many privileges

[01:41.90]— for example,when parents send a child to an expensive summer camp

[01:48.85]that the parents can't really afford.

[01:52.82]Why parents give their children too much,

[01:57.86]or give things they can't afford?

[02:01.42]I believe there are several reasons.

[02:05.78]One fairly common reason

[02:10.04]is that parents overindulge their children out of a sense of guilt 3.

[02:16.10]Parents who both hold down full-time 4 jobs

[02:20.67]may feel guilty about the amount of time they spend away from their children

[02:27.02]and may attempt to compensate 5 by showering them with material possessions.

[02:34.28]Other parents overindulge because they want their children to have everything they had while growing up,

[02:43.24]along with those things the parents yearned 6 for but didn't get.

[02:48.70]Still others are afraid to say no to their children's endless requests for toys

[02:56.14]for fear that their children will feel unloved or will be ridiculed 7

[03:03.69]if they don't have the same playthings their friends have.

[03:08.55]Overindulgence of a child also happens

[03:13.83]when parentsare unable to stand up to their children's unreasonable 8 demands.

[03:20.28]Such parents vacillate between saying no and giving in

[03:27.33]—but neither response seems satisfactory to them.

[03:32.79]If they refuse a request,

[03:36.63]they immediately feel a wave of remorse 9

[03:40.68]for having been so strict or ungenerous.

[03:45.44]If they give in, they feel regret and resentment 10 over having been a pushover.

[03:53.69]This kind of vacillation 11 not only impairs 12 the parents' ability to set limits,

[04:02.44]it also sours the parent-child relationship to some degree,

[04:08.50]robbing parents and their children of some of the happiness and mutual 13 respect

[04:16.68]that should be present in healthy families.

[04:21.43]But overindulging children with material things

[04:27.49]does little to lessen 14 parental 15 guilt

[04:31.62](since parents never feel that they've given enough),

[04:36.17]nor does it make children feel more loved

[04:40.24](for what children really crave 16 is parents' time and attention).

[04:46.41]Instead,the effects of overindulgence can be harmful.

[04:52.47]Children may, to some degree, become greedy,self-centered,

[04:58.63]ungratefuland insensitive to the needs and feelings of others,

[05:03.49]beginning with their parents.

[05:06.73]When children are given too much,

[05:11.12]it undermines their respect for their parents.

[05:15.48]In fact,

[05:18.12]the children begin to sense that a parent's unlimited 17 generosity is not right

[05:24.49]The paradoxical result may be that these children will push furher,

[05:31.62]unconsciously hoping that,

[05:35.26]if they push too hard,they will force their parents into setting limits.

[05:41.60]Also,overindulged children

[05:47.25]are not as challenged as children with fewer playthings

[05:53.20]to be more creative in their play.

[05:57.46]They have fewer opportunities to learn the value of money,


  [06:02.92]and have less experience in learning to deal with a delay in gratification,

[06:10.29]if every requested object is given on demand.

[06:15.46]The real purpose of this discussion is not to tell parents how much

[06:21.94]or how little to give to their children.

[06:26.80]Rather,my intent is to help those parents who have already sensed

[06:33.85]that they might be overindulging their children but don't know how to stop.

[06:39.62]Parents who are fortunate enough not to have a problem with feelings of guilt

[06:45.37]don't need to respond crossly to their children

[06:50.33]when denying a specific request

[06:54.38]which is thought to be unreasonable.

[06:58.04]They can explain, cheerfully,that it's too expensive

[07:04.41]—except perhaps as a birthday or holiday gift

[07:09.17]—or that the child will have to contribute to its purchase from an allowance

[07:16.53]or from the earnings 18 of an outside job.

[07:21.29]It's the cheerfulness and lack of hesitation 19

[07:26.93]that impress upon the child that parents mean what they say.

[07:32.39]A cross response signals that the parents are in inner conflict.

[07:38.87]In fact,I'll make a rash statement that I believe is true,by and large:

[07:45.63]Children will abide 20 by what their siricerely believe is right.

[07:52.29]They only begin arguing and pes-iring when they detect uncertainty 21 or guilt,

[07:59.66]and sense that their parents can be pushed to give them what they want,

[08:05.41]if they just keep at fit.

[08:08.57]But the truth is that a child really wants parents to be in control

[08:14.73]—even if it means saying no to a request

[08:19.70]and to act with conviction in a kind and loving fashion.

[08:26.85]But, you may answer,

[08:30.09]I often am uncertain about whether to give in to many of my children's requests.

[08:36.86]That doesn't mean you can't change.

[08:41.30]First you should try to determine what makes you submissive or guilty.

[08:49.06]Then, even if you haven't uncovered the reason,

[08:54.52]you should begin to make firm decisions and practice

[09:00.16]responding to your children's requests in a prompt,definite manner.

[09:06.40]Once you turn over a new leaf,

[09:11.39]you can't expect to change completely right away.

[09:16.12]You are bound to vacillate at times.

[09:20.69]The key is to be satisfied with gradual improvement,

[09:26.75]expecting and accepting the occasional slips that come with any change.

[09:34.80]And even after you are handling these decisions in a firmer

[09:40.26]and more confident manner,

[09:44.02]you can't expect your children to respond immediately

[09:48.98]For a while they'll keep on applying the old pressures that used to work so well.

[09:56.72]But they'll eventually come to respect your decisions

[10:02.15]once they learn that nagging 22 and arguing no longer work.

[10:08.39]In the end, both you and your children will be happier for it.



1 kit
n.用具包,成套工具;随身携带物
  • The kit consisted of about twenty cosmetic items.整套工具包括大约20种化妆用品。
  • The captain wants to inspect your kit.船长想检查你的行装。
2 generosity
n.大度,慷慨,慷慨的行为
  • We should match their generosity with our own.我们应该像他们一样慷慨大方。
  • We adore them for their generosity.我们钦佩他们的慷慨。
3 guilt
n.犯罪;内疚;过失,罪责
  • She tried to cover up her guilt by lying.她企图用谎言掩饰自己的罪行。
  • Don't lay a guilt trip on your child about schoolwork.别因为功课责备孩子而使他觉得很内疚。
4 full-time
adj.满工作日的或工作周的,全时间的
  • A full-time job may be too much for her.全天工作她恐怕吃不消。
  • I don't know how she copes with looking after her family and doing a full-time job.既要照顾家庭又要全天工作,我不知道她是如何对付的。
5 compensate
vt.补偿,赔偿;酬报 vi.弥补;补偿;抵消
  • She used her good looks to compensate her lack of intelligence. 她利用她漂亮的外表来弥补智力的不足。
  • Nothing can compensate for the loss of one's health. 一个人失去了键康是不可弥补的。
6 yearned
渴望,切盼,向往( yearn的过去式和过去分词 )
  • The people yearned for peace. 人民渴望和平。
  • She yearned to go back to the south. 她渴望回到南方去。
7 ridiculed
v.嘲笑,嘲弄,奚落( ridicule的过去式和过去分词 )
  • Biosphere 2 was ultimately ridiculed as a research debade, as exfravagant pseudoscience. 生物圈2号最终被讥讽为科研上的大失败,代价是昂贵的伪科学。 来自《简明英汉词典》
  • She ridiculed his insatiable greed. 她嘲笑他的贪得无厌。 来自《简明英汉词典》
8 unreasonable
adj.不讲道理的,不合情理的,过度的
  • I know that they made the most unreasonable demands on you.我知道他们对你提出了最不合理的要求。
  • They spend an unreasonable amount of money on clothes.他们花在衣服上的钱太多了。
9 remorse
n.痛恨,悔恨,自责
  • She had no remorse about what she had said.她对所说的话不后悔。
  • He has shown no remorse for his actions.他对自己的行为没有任何悔恨之意。
10 resentment
n.怨愤,忿恨
  • All her feelings of resentment just came pouring out.她一股脑儿倾吐出所有的怨恨。
  • She cherished a deep resentment under the rose towards her employer.她暗中对她的雇主怀恨在心。
11 vacillation
n.动摇;忧柔寡断
  • Vacillation is the cause of his failure.优柔寡断是他失败的原因。
  • His constant vacillation made him an unfit administrator.他经常优柔寡断,这使他不适合当行政官员。
12 impairs
v.损害,削弱( impair的第三人称单数 )
  • Smoking impairs our health. 吸烟会损害我们的健康。 来自《简明英汉词典》
  • Almost anything that impairs liver function can cause hepatitis. 任何有损于肝功能的因素,几乎都会引起肝炎。 来自辞典例句
13 mutual
adj.相互的,彼此的;共同的,共有的
  • We must pull together for mutual interest.我们必须为相互的利益而通力合作。
  • Mutual interests tied us together.相互的利害关系把我们联系在一起。
14 lessen
vt.减少,减轻;缩小
  • Regular exercise can help to lessen the pain.经常运动有助于减轻痛感。
  • They've made great effort to lessen the noise of planes.他们尽力减小飞机的噪音。
15 parental
adj.父母的;父的;母的
  • He encourages parental involvement in the running of school.他鼓励学生家长参与学校的管理。
  • Children always revolt against parental disciplines.孩子们总是反抗父母的管束。
16 crave
vt.渴望得到,迫切需要,恳求,请求
  • Many young children crave attention.许多小孩子渴望得到关心。
  • You may be craving for some fresh air.你可能很想呼吸呼吸新鲜空气。
17 unlimited
adj.无限的,不受控制的,无条件的
  • They flew over the unlimited reaches of the Arctic.他们飞过了茫茫无边的北极上空。
  • There is no safety in unlimited technological hubris.在技术方面自以为是会很危险。
18 earnings
n.工资收人;利润,利益,所得
  • That old man lives on the earnings of his daughter.那个老人靠他女儿的收入维持生活。
  • Last year there was a 20% decrease in his earnings.去年他的收入减少了20%。
19 hesitation
n.犹豫,踌躇
  • After a long hesitation, he told the truth at last.踌躇了半天,他终于直说了。
  • There was a certain hesitation in her manner.她的态度有些犹豫不决。
20 abide
vi.遵守;坚持;vt.忍受
  • You must abide by the results of your mistakes.你必须承担你的错误所造成的后果。
  • If you join the club,you have to abide by its rules.如果你参加俱乐部,你就得遵守它的规章。
21 uncertainty
n.易变,靠不住,不确知,不确定的事物
  • Her comments will add to the uncertainty of the situation.她的批评将会使局势更加不稳定。
  • After six weeks of uncertainty,the strain was beginning to take its toll.6个星期的忐忑不安后,压力开始产生影响了。
22 nagging
adj.唠叨的,挑剔的;使人不得安宁的v.不断地挑剔或批评(某人)( nag的现在分词 );不断地烦扰或伤害(某人);无休止地抱怨;不断指责
  • Stop nagging—I'll do it as soon as I can. 别唠叨了—我会尽快做的。
  • I've got a nagging pain in my lower back. 我后背下方老是疼。 来自《简明英汉词典》
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