时间:2019-02-06 作者:英语课 分类:英语学习方法


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 西方人的谈吐技巧


西方人为了彼此融洽相处,维护国家良好形象,特别重视生活教育和人际关系。尤其平时说话时多能笑口常开,低声细语、彬彬有礼。在激动时也能保持冷静。在谈话技巧上,也是挖空心思,不遗余力,以获得别人的好感。他们认为沟通的技巧不仅能代表个人受教育的程度与素养,也能显示国家的文明水平。以下是一些例子: 


一、先“恭维”后“不过”。 
1. 美国人对别人的建议或忠告,多半不会马上答复。即使不想采纳,通常也会客气地说:You have a wonderful idea,but have you thought 1 of it another way﹖你的主意很棒,不过你是否想到用另外一种方式来考虑呢? 
2. 西方人婉拒别人的邀请,也是如法炮制。 
Thank you for asking,but I have to do something else tonight. 谢谢邀请,但我今晚要办其他事情。 
或把Let me think about it.作为缓冲或推辞的藉口。 
二、以冷静、幽默的方式解窘。 
西方人对人生似乎看得较开,他们遇到窘境下不了台时,也能泰然处之,甚至以自责或自贬的方式,一笑了之。
1. 例如:假如上司带着埋怨的口气说:You did 2 not finish the work when you were supposed 3 to.你该做完的工作而没有做完。下属也会冷静地说:Yes,I forgot 4. I need to make sure I remember it next time.是的,我忘了,下次我会记住。 
2. 在遇到自己犯错时,也会说:I goofed 5 it. 我做错了。 
3. 在遇到自己笨手笨脚做不好一件事时,也会说:Gracious,I seem 6 to be having a hard time. 嗳!我似乎困难重重! 
4. 当学生上课迟到,老师质问时,他会说: 
You are right. I need to allow 7 myself 8 more time next time. 是啊,我下次需要充分的时间。 
5. 学生在上课时说话,老师要他先举手,他会说:I will remember next time when I have something to say. 我下次说话时会记得。 
6. 遇到别人做错事,他们往往也会宽慰地说:Don't worry,this happens sometimes. 不要紧,这种事情时有发生。 
三、多用积极正面的语气。 
西方人为了使对方感到乐观、积极、很少用消极语气(即句子里不含No或Not)。例如:I will try whatever 9 I can. 我会尽力而为。 
如果说:I'm sorry I can't help you.似乎较消极了。 
四、使用委婉语。 
有时为了表现得文明、高雅,有人也在推敲用字巧妙,于是一些“赏心悦耳”的字眼也相继出笼了。例如:“丑”不说ugly,而称之为homely;胖不说fat,而说成heavy-set;“家庭主妇”不说houseife,而说成homemaker等等。 
方人谈吐重视斯文雅致,喜欢说些别人爱听的话,尽量避免忠言逆耳。但其中有一些也是装腔作势带有几分虚伪的。

n.想法,思想,思维,思潮,关心,挂念;v.vbl.think的过去式和过去分词
  • It was just a thought.这仅仅是一个想法。
  • She thought he had a cold.她认为他感冒了。
v.动词do的过去式
  • How many goals did you score in the last game?上一场比赛你们进了几个球?
  • Why did you choose basketball in the first place?你为何首先选择篮球呢?
adj.(按规定、法律、协议等)(不)应当;假定的;(只用于否定句)不准;(对某人所说的话表示气愤或不大理解)那是什么意思v.料想( suppose的过去式和过去分词);意味着;[用于被动语态]认为应该;[用于祈使句]让
  • Journalists are supposed to be politically neutral. 新闻工作者在政治上应持中立态度。
  • I was supposed to be writing a letter but I'm afraid I got sidetracked . 我本来应该在写信,但后来恐怕是分心干别的去了。
v.动词forget的过去式,忘记,遗漏,轻忽
  • The boy forgot where he put his textbook.那男孩忘记把课本放在什么地方了。
  • I forgot how to do it.我忘记怎样做了。
v.弄糟( goof的过去式和过去分词 );混;打发时间;出大错
  • Sorry, guys. I goofed. 对不起,各位。我搞砸了。
  • We just goofed around till the train time. 在火车开车前我们只是闲荡了一阵。 来自《现代英汉综合大词典》
vi.好像,似乎,看来好像
  • You seem very much alive today.你今天好像非常活跃。
  • The children seem very happy.孩子们似乎很快活。
vi.(for)考虑到;vt. 允许,准许
  • Will your father allow us to use his telephone?你父亲肯让我们使用他的电话吗?
  • The river is too deep to allow of swimming.河太深,不能游泳。
pron.我自己
  • Should I do it myself?我应该自己做吗?
  • I woke up to find myself in the hospital.我醒来发现自己在医院里。
adj.不管怎样的;adv.无论如何,不管怎样;pron.无论什么
  • Whatever you do, try your best.无论你做什么,都要尽力而为。
  • Whatever you say,facts are facts.任凭你怎么说,事实总是事实。
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