时间:2019-01-16 作者:英语课 分类:2017年NPR美国国家公共电台12月


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MARY LOUISE KELLY, HOST:


This summer, everything was going to plan for Audrey Degraaf and her wife. They had adopted a baby boy in January, their first child. Soon, he had a sibling 1 on the way. Audrey was pregnant. And then came the ultrasound.


AUDREY DEGRAAF: The look on the ultrasound tech's face just made us think there was something wrong. So I just said, hey, what's wrong? And they're like, well, there's nothing wrong. There's just several.


KELLY: Audrey was pregnant with triplets - one boy, two girls. First came the shock.


DEGRAAF: And my wife goes, there goes my Mustang.


LORIE SHELLEY: We also - like you, there was a car involved. We were going to try one round of IVF. And if it didn't work, we were going to buy our Porsche and jet off into the sunset. And it worked.


KELLY: That other voice is Lorie Shelley. She gave birth to triplets almost two decades ago. And this year, she sent them away to college. For our series Been There, we sat her down with Audrey, who's 27 weeks pregnant and says she's still feeling pretty terrified.


DEGRAAF: What were the first few days like - like, after they were born? How far along were you?


SHELLEY: My babies came about where you are right now - at 27 weeks. So when the kids were in the NICU - neonatal intensive care unit - they were a pound 6, a pound 8, a pound 11. They were very, very tiny, very frail 2, very fragile. And we were scared. So we spent the first four months fearful and hopeful that doctors would be able to fix everything. And they did. Even though my kids were sick and frail - and this was 19 years ago - they thrived.


We were so afraid to have three babies at home - just petrified 3. And happily, they came home one at a time. So we got a little bit of time to adjust to each baby. And, also, that gave us something that I think we've done that probably other triplet moms have done, too. We celebrate their discharge date. They all have their - we call it D Day. And we celebrate them as an individual.


DEGRAAF: And then once they all came home, did you get any sleep?


SHELLEY: No. No, you don't sleep (laughter). No, I'm sorry. I want to tell you that you do, but you really don't. And my husband and I planned it so well - that I was going to feed them during the night, so he could be rested for the daytime. But, really, it takes a village to feed them. And by the time we'd feed the third one, it was time for the first one.


DEGRAAF: I've heard people say - and it's kind of - like, our little guy right now, who's 11 months - I mean, he eats when he's hungry. We think he's hungry. We give him a bottle. We think he's tired. He's on no schedule. And I'm hearing, with triplets, it sounds like that would be a nightmare.


SHELLEY: Oh, dear (laughter). That's not going to work.


DEGRAAF: Did you put them on the NICU schedule? I've heard people maybe...


SHELLEY: Yes. The NICU has them like a military precision. Every three hours, they feed them. If you stick with their schedule, you'll be golden. And the other thing I would strongly advise is to have a chart and color code your babies because no matter how different they are, you will forget which kid you just fed. Within five minutes, you'll forget. Did I feed baby A? Did I feed baby B? And they're ravenously 4 hungry, so you may end up feeding a kid twice and skipping one altogether.


DEGRAAF: What about you, like, getting - 'cause I think of, like, dividing up our time with each of them, so they each feel like they get individual time. I don't even know if individual time is something that they'll get.


SHELLEY: It is.


DEGRAAF: OK. So how did you figure out how to divide that up with all the needs of the different kids?


SHELLEY: That's a great question. One of the very first things we did before they were even conscious human beings was assigned them a day of the week. And that was their day when we started doing date days and doing individual times together. Everybody knew Monday was Miley's day. And Cal's day was on Wednesday. And that transferred all the way up to high school, when they started to drive, because they had one car to split. And they'd get up and go, oh, it's Tuesday. It's Jared's day. So they always knew. And it really cut down on the fighting.


DEGRAAF: That's neat. That's neat. So were you always known as, like - oh, she's the triplet mom. Or how did you keep your own sense of self and who you are in the midst of being really engulfed 5 by triplet mom?


SHELLEY: I was the triplet mom. And I've been a professional woman all my adult life. But for some reason, that's all gone. I am the triplet mom. And I have to say, it's OK. I - you know, some of my closest friends are fellow moms. And so you kind of slip into that role of mom, no matter if you have one or four.


DEGRAAF: So my main concern with having triplets and additionally taking care of them and all the things is, you know, clearly, I married the person I love because I love them, and I want to be living a long life with them and travel. And you have all these visions on your wedding day of like, we're going to go here and have an annual trip internationally - all these things.


And so the reality of having now four children all pretty much under a year - they're going to be - how did you maintain your marriage? Because that's, like, so important to us. And how did you kind of keep that person that you love as - kind of not lose them in the midst of all these needs?


SHELLEY: It is - that's a tough one. You do have to be committed to the marriage and to raising those babies. And I will tell you the most attractive thing about my husband now is how much of a wonderful parent he is. I didn't know that about him. And as a matter of fact, during the pregnancy 6, I couldn't understand why he wasn't as excited as I was. And I was thinking, OK, we're going to get a divorce because he doesn't love these babies.


But his parenting helped me in every way and also made me realize just how wonderful he was. Oh, yeah. We had difficult times. But we made a commitment to keep traveling. And we traveled. We traveled a lot, even with all of those babies. So I know you said you travel.


DEGRAAF: We thought those days were over (laughter).


SHELLEY: No, they're not. They're just a lot less enjoyable.


(LAUGHTER)


SHELLEY: It's just not as fun, I'm sad to say. It's just more work.


DEGRAAF: What do you think was the hardest thing about having triplets? Like, is there one thing that stands out as...


SHELLEY: One thing that stands out for me - it was a moment where we went to the grocery store. And two of the kids were fussy 7. So our nurse - she - I said, would you stay in the van with two of the kids? And I'm going to just take Cal into the store. And I walked him in. And we were holding hands. And he just was incredulous. And he looked at me, and he said, wow, Mom. And I said, what? And he said, this is what it must be like to be an only child. And it broke my heart. And it still does.


But you will be amazed at your capacity for love. And no matter how hard it is, no matter - in that moment, when you have three sick babies and only you to comfort them, and you think, oh, my gosh. What was I thinking? How did this happen? How am I going to do this? It's going to be OK.


(SOUNDBITE OF SONG, "THREE IS A MAGIC NUMBER")


BOB DOROUGH: (Singing) Three is a magic number.


KELLY: That's Lorie Shelley. Her triplets are 19 years old and just left for college. She was speaking with Audrey Degraaf, who is 27 weeks pregnant with triplets. They spoke 8 together for our series Been There. If you want advice about a big change in your life, email us. We're at nprcrowdsource@npr.org. And put Been There in the subject line.


(SOUNDBITE OF SONG, "THREE IS A MAGIC NUMBER")


DOROUGH: (Singing) The heart and the brain and the body give you three as a magic number.



n.同胞手足(指兄、弟、姐或妹)
  • Many of us hate living in the shadows of a more successful sibling.我们很多人都讨厌活在更为成功的手足的阴影下。
  • Sibling ravalry has been common in this family.这个家里,兄弟姊妹之间的矛盾很平常。
adj.身体虚弱的;易损坏的
  • Mrs. Warner is already 96 and too frail to live by herself.华纳太太已经九十六岁了,身体虚弱,不便独居。
  • She lay in bed looking particularly frail.她躺在床上,看上去特别虚弱。
adj.惊呆的;目瞪口呆的v.使吓呆,使惊呆;变僵硬;使石化(petrify的过去式和过去分词)
  • I'm petrified of snakes. 我特别怕蛇。
  • The poor child was petrified with fear. 这可怜的孩子被吓呆了。 来自《简明英汉词典》
adv.大嚼地,饥饿地
  • We were all ravenously hungry after the walk. 我们散步之后都饿得要命。 来自《简明英汉词典》
  • The boys dug in ravenously. 男孩们开始狼吞虎咽地吃起来。 来自《简明英汉词典》
v.吞没,包住( engulf的过去式和过去分词 )
  • He was engulfed by a crowd of reporters. 他被一群记者团团围住。
  • The little boat was engulfed by the waves. 小船被波浪吞没了。 来自《简明英汉词典》
n.怀孕,怀孕期
  • Early pregnancy is often accompanied by nausea.怀孕早期常有恶心的现象。
  • Smoking during pregnancy increases the risk of miscarriage.怀孕期吸烟会增加流产的危险。
adj.为琐事担忧的,过分装饰的,爱挑剔的
  • He is fussy about the way his food's cooked.他过分计较食物的烹调。
  • The little girl dislikes her fussy parents.小女孩讨厌她那过分操心的父母。
n.(车轮的)辐条;轮辐;破坏某人的计划;阻挠某人的行动 v.讲,谈(speak的过去式);说;演说;从某种观点来说
  • They sourced the spoke nuts from our company.他们的轮辐螺帽是从我们公司获得的。
  • The spokes of a wheel are the bars that connect the outer ring to the centre.辐条是轮子上连接外圈与中心的条棒。
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