我们应该抛在脑后的10个想法

 　　A new way of thinking has become the necessary condition for responsible living and acting 1. If you want to move forward, you must change your way of thinking and leave these thoughts behind you:

　　负责任的生活和行为方式需要新的思维方式。如果你想要继续前行，你就必须改变思维方式，把这10种想法抛在脑后：
　　1. “I don’t have a choice.”
　　我别无选择。
　　You write your own destiny through the choices you make. You become what you repeatedly do. It is more important to know where you are going and why, than to get there quickly. Every time you are tempted 2 to react to the same old circumstances in the same old way, ask yourself, “Do I want to be a prisoner of the past, or a pioneer of the future?”
　　所当你做下选择，你就写下了自己的命运。你重复做什么样的事，你就会成为什么样的人。与其想着迅速到达目的地，还不如清楚知道自己要去哪，为什么要去。每当你被诱惑在相同的环境里用相同的方式去做什么事时，问问自己：“我要做过去的囚犯，还是成为未来的开拓者？”
　　2. “Life is easy.”
　　生活很容易。
　　Life is NOT easy, it IS difficult. That’s the greatest truth there is. It’s great because once you understand and accept this truth, you can move forward with your life. Once you thoroughly 3 know in your heart and mind that life is difficult, then life gets a lot easier to deal with. Because once difficulty is accepted as a foundation, it no longer surprises you or stops you from building a lifestyle that rises above it.
　　生活不易，它其实很艰难，那也是生活最伟大的事实。这是因为一旦你懂得并接受了这个事实，你的生活将会勇往前行。当你在心中彻底明白了生活的艰难，那生活会变得更加容易应对。因为困难一旦被视为事实和前提，那么它就再也不会让你惊讶，再也不会阻碍你去建立一个更好的生活方式。
　　3. “The way it is now is the way it will always be.”
　　现在是什么样子，将来就是什么样子。
　　Don’t confuse your path with your destination. Just because it’s stormy now, doesn’t mean you aren’t headed for sunshine. And remember, you cannot heal a lifetime of pain overnight; be patient with yourself, it takes as long as it takes, but your happiness is worth the wait.
　　你要去的目的地，和通往目的地的道路，这两个别弄混了。不要因为现在狂风暴雨，就确定日后不会阳光普照。要记住，一生的疼痛不可能一夜之间治愈，对自己耐心点，它该花多长时间就花多长时间，幸福值得等待。
　　4. “The sky is falling.”
　　天快塌下来了。
　　When everything in your life is coming together, you can hold on to the belief that ‘everything happens for a reason’ with frivolous 4 ease. But when everything’s falling apart - your relationships, your health, your finances, etc. - it takes tremendous effort to wrap your mind and heart around that belief and hold onto it for dear life. Yet you must. For in that belief lies your hope, your courage, and your strength to move forward.
　　当生活中的一切都非常美好时，你可以轻轻松松相信：“任何事情的发生都是有原因的”。但当感情、健康、金钱等等一切分崩离析时，你得用尽全力才能坚持这个信念，你必须去坚持。因为这个信念里有你的希望，你的勇气和你继续前行的动力。
　　5. “Everyone else is doing better than me.”
　　别人都比我做得好。
　　Do not feed your insecurities, or they will consume you. Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight reel. We listen to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves. So stop the comparisons; listen to your own inner voice and your own soul.
　　不要再去纵容自己那点不安全感了，有一天它们会毁了你。有时我们纠缠于不安全感，是因为我们把自己的幕后和他人的台前光环进行比较（缺点比优点）。我们听着来自世界的各种噪音，就是不去倾听自己的内心。所以停止比较，听听自己的内心，自己的灵魂世界吧！
　　6. “That’s unrealistic.”
　　那不现实。
　　To be successful, you have to be a little unrealistic. You have to believe that something totally different than what has happened for an eternity 5 can happen. Think about it. Being realistic doesn’t change anything; being unrealistic does. Doesn’t it seem a bit unrealistic to be able to walk into a dark space, hit a switch, and instantly fill the entire space with light? Fortunately Thomas Edison didn’t think so.
　　要想成功，你还得变得有点不现实。你必须相信，世界上总有和永远存在发生的现状完全不同的事物。仔细想想。变得现实不会改变一切，但不现实却可以。在黑暗空间里行走，碰一下开关，瞬间就会点亮整个空间--是不是显得有些不现实？还好爱迪生不这么认为。
　　7. “I wish.”
　　我希望。
　　The best thing you can do for yourself is to stop saying “I wish,” start saying “I will,” and then go do something about it. The world isn’t going to dominate itself. You just have to wake up one morning and decide that you don’t want to feel like this anymore, ever again. And then make a change, just like that.
　　你能为自己做的最棒的事情就是停止说“我希望”，而开始说“我将要”，然后采取行动。世界无法自我主宰，你需要在某天早晨醒来告诉自己：你再也不想要这样下去了。然后开始改变，就是这样。
　　8. “It’s too late.”
　　一切都太晚了。
　　Believing it’s too late is the end of your journey; believing in yourself is an endless destination. Trust yourself. Break the rules. Don’t be afraid to fail. Ignore those who doubt you. Work your butt 6 off. And be sure to give something back before you’re done.
　　你若相信“太晚了”，你的成功之路也就终止了。相信自己才会使未来之路变得无限可能。信赖自己，打破条条框框，不要畏惧失败。藐视那些怀疑你的人，排除杂念，还要确保你在到达目的地之前给予一些回馈。
　　9. “I can’t.”
　　我做不到。
　　Nobody is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. Sometimes life will beat you to the ground, and keep you there if you let it. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you; it’s about how hard you can be hit while continuing to move forward. That’s what true strength is. And that’s what winning the game of life is all about.
　　生活会打击你，使你攻其不备挫败连连，这就是生活。有时候生活将会把你击败到谷底，如果你听之任之，你就永远只能在谷底。关键不在于生活多么猛烈的打击，而在于你在这猛烈打击之后还能奋然前进，这才是真正的力量。这也是成功人生的全部。
　　10. “This situation couldn’t get any worse.”
　　情况不能更糟了。
　　Nothing is good or bad, as thinking makes it so. Be determined 7 to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation you may find yourself. For you will eventually learn that the greater part of your happiness or unhappiness is determined not by your specific circumstances, but by your disposition 8 and perspective.
　　凡事没有好坏，一切在于你的态度。无论身处什么处境，你都应该坚定地保持开心愉悦。因为最后，你会懂得你绝大部分的开心或郁闷不是取决于你所处的某个具体环境，而在于看待事物的态度。